Author Archives: Cathy Owen

About Cathy Owen

I have enjoyed working and playing with children for over 20 years, starting with a holiday job as mother's helper to two different families and babysitting for neighbours from the age of 17. My experience since then includes working with children from 3 months to 12 years, in schools, nurseries, toddler groups and homes, as a teacher assistant, play leader, special needs facilitator, after school and holiday club supervisor/planner, childminder, and currently as a private nanny. My Discovery Boxes developed out of my observation and interaction with young children and a desire to enter and enrich their world. Children are our greatest teachers; their imagination has a magical quality that makes the world a more exciting and wondrous place. I love nothing better than to join them in this adventure that is life and see where we can journey together! To learn more about my way of working, see my posts.

Sensory Play is More than Mess

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Sensory Play is More than Mess

     

There’s no doubt about it – small children certainly love getting messy! Child development experts are now telling us this is an important developmental stage we ought to encourage…. But why?

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Until they reach the age of 3 or 4, we seem to spend the whole time wiping them up! Have you, like me, been worried that we will be judged for being neglectful if they appear in public covered in yuck? And we all try to find the washing powder with the ability to remove the most stains, don’t we? So what is the purpose for all that mess?

Recently I started looking more closely at this fascination with messy play. I had heard it was vital for brain development and so something one must allow (with gritted teeth and a blind eye to the kitchen being trashed) in case one stunted their creativity… or something.

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Why do they like wading gleefully through puddles, making mud pies, getting covered in paint and plunging up to their elbows in papier mache? When I last made papier mache with school kids, we never actually got to make any models, the kids were enjoying themselves far too much just squishing around in it! In fact one of my most popular activities at the after school club was the day we had a Gloop Competition. I divided the kids into teams and gave each team a set of ingredients: Flour, water, liquid soap, oats, cornflour, salt and food colouring. They mixed everything up in various combinations and then went round judging their friends’ creations for the grand title of Most Glorious Gloop. The winning criteria was the gloop mixture that felt the most irresistible.  And these weren’t toddlers; the average age was eight!

As I began to do more art and baking activities with the kids, I began to really enjoy it and totally understood where they were coming from! The breakthrough moment came as I supervised a toddler doing finger painting one day. He swirled the paint around, getting great squishy lumps of it all over himself, the table and some on the paper. He informed me he was making a slug. A daddy slug! I suddenly realised he wasn’t talking about the image on the paper but the tactile feel of the slimy paint between his fingers. He picked up a little blob of paint, stuck it to the paper and said in a squeaky voice, “baby slug!” The feel of the paint reminded him of the feel and look of a slug! It is an adult concept that art has to be representational. Art for small children is all about the creative, tactile process. He experienced his world directly through his senses, primarily the sense of touch. It was clear he was making brain connections through what he felt with his fingers.

      

    

When baking, I now always let the children mix with their hands so they can really make a connection with the materials. It’s not about the cake they’re making – for them the joy is in the goop squished between their fingers, and the bowl they can lick out afterwards. They need to physically explore everything, in order to really understand how the world works. Once they have thoroughly explored a new substance or object, they are then ready to work with it as a means to an end rather than as a process in itself.

      

They’re not being ill-mannered when they blow bubbles in their drinks or make patterns in a puddle of soup on the table. They’re experimenting with the physical properties of materials in their environment. Water, mud, paint, sand, jelly, soup, flour, all have different properties that have to be investigated so that brain connections can form and enable the child to relate to the physical world.

   

Encouraging Sensory Play

So for a few years, just let go of your preconception of a perfectly clean and tidy home and remember that children NEED sensory development and it WILL be messy, but glorious too! As well as mud, leaves, water, sand and other materials found in the natural environment, I have a couple of favourites!

Jelly bubbles, or water beads, are small grains of water-absorbent substance that swell into squishy marble-sized balls when soaked in water. All children find them irresistible! Here we are mixing and comparing lentils AND jellybubbles!

      

 

Jellybubbles go extremely well with ducks or sea creatures!

Another wonderfully calming sensory activity is a tray of small seeds. I find flax seeds and lentils are most irresistible. Rice is slightly spiky, so use rounded seeds. Every child I have put a tray of seeds in front of is instantly hooked and can’t stop feeling the wonderful flowing texture. It is amazing at calming down hyperactive, anxious or restless children.

         

We take this very basic information about how stuff feels for granted, since we cannot remember a time when we didn’t know what paint or cake mix felt like. But the child is just beginning! The getting messy part is merely a side-effect of the necessary exploration of his world. It is his baseline, the foundation of a lifetime of discovery. If you allow him to enjoy this messy stage, it will help him to always enjoy learning, and become spatially confident in his environment.  In a few years he will build on this experience to start using materials in constructive, creative ways, and phase in other ways of relating to his environment… and you can enjoy having a clean kitchen again!

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Exploring The Delights of Natural Play

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Exploring The Delights of Natural Play

Why is natural play important for children?What is “loose parts play” all about?

What’s the big deal with wooden toys? Aren’t pegdolls and random bits of wood a bit plain and simple for my child’s sophisticated intelligence?

Loose parts and natural play seem to be very much the “in thing” these days. But what’s all the fuss about?

I wanted to know these answers when I first came across natural wooden Montessori and Steiner toys such as the Ostheimer type simple wooden animals. I was comparing them with detailed plastic toy animals such as the high quality Schleich brand which I had so admired.

Then I met a family who was raising their children entirely naturally. All their toys were made of wood. All their food was organic. They weren’t vaccinated or given conventional medicine, only treated with plant remedies. The children were the happiest, healthiest, most loved little beings I had ever come across. And I had the privilege of being their nanny!

The two year old taught me about the importance of wooden toys. He had a simple little wooden rabbit just the size to fit in your hand.

One day we took the rabbit for a walk to see the spring flowers. He let me hold it. I seemed to enter a different world. The wooden rabbit felt like it emanated a kind of calming, grounding, living energy which made me feel a deep inner peace. I didn’t want to let go of the rabbit! He was my friend. I entered the world of a small child holding a wooden toy.

A group of nursery children taught me about the joys of loose parts play. I think I “got it” the day I watched two 3 year old girls playing with mud and sticks. When I went closer I saw they were making “sandwiches” by using a stick to spread mud on bits of wood and having a picnic!

Another time I watched a little girl arranging a beautiful pattern with flower petals; a group of little ones mixing and sorting a bowlful of bits of wood; and two children playing with a pile of nuts in quiet fascination. The very simplicity of loose parts invites children to become totally absorbed in designing, creating, exploring and experimenting. Loose parts can become anything and be played with in multiple different ways, from building and sorting to pattern making, creative fantasy play and mathematical organising.

There is no right or wrong way to play; the child decides. Loose parts play encourages flexibility and resilience and taps into self motivated creative thinking.

Detailed plastic replica toys, where everything is already put together, leave no scope for imagination.

How can the child interact with them, what part of themselves can they immerse in these toys? Added to which, too many designated “boy toys” are destructive rather than creative.

The more detail is predetermined, the more distanced the child becomes. The simpler, the more focused and involved. Loose parts are an irresistible invitation!

Plastic is bland, inert and has no energy or living substance. Wood and wool have texture, warmth and life. They are from the earth, in tune with the same matter our own bodies are made up of. On a vibrational level, they resonate in harmony with the human soul.

I wanted to explore this concept further, so I took time out to have a walk around a local woodland park. It has plenty of trees. I figured that if I could feel the energy coming from a wooden toy, maybe I could discover the source of that energy in a living tree.

I walked slowly all around the park, stopping to touch and lean on each tree; to come under the shelter of its branches, examine the texture of the bark and gaze up at this majestic ‘being’ towering over me like a protective guardian.

My mind was filled with a primal awareness, echoing the consciousness of a small child. I saw the little hidey holes in the tree trunks where small creatures lived.

As I came near to each tree, a humming, vibrational consciousness entered my awareness. Was it the spirit of the tree? I don’t know.

This may sound fanciful or hippyish, but this is what I felt. An incredibly deep soothing peaceful and grounding energy, which became stronger the closer to the tree I moved. As I touched the tree it intensified, and thrummed through my body. With this heightened awareness, I traversed the park, noticing the beauty of the wooden sculptures and natural tree forms.

I came away with a bag full of beautiful twisty branches to make a natural building set for children. When I began to put together my natural building set, I introduced it to the family I mentioned above. The little boy (now four) and his nine year old sister were ecstatic! “This is the best toy ever!” they exclaimed, as they found dozens of different ways of playing with each random piece.

Now I ‘get it’. It is the open-ended nature of these loose parts, these pieces of randomly shaped wood, the simplest toys, that so engages the imagination of a child. It is as if a fire is ignited within them. The joy and enthusiasm I see as the little boy sings happily to himself and exclaims in wonder over his little sculptures and creations, explains it all.

In this building set, I try to ensure each piece fits together with any of the other pieces in any number of different ways. I let the children inspire me with their way of using these loose parts in their play.

The different pieces of wood can stand all kinds of different ways up and join together to make different little dens and structures.

On a side note, a den is an extremely engaging and exciting idea to a child because it harks back to a very primal part of our collective consciousness; that of seeking territory and shelter. Going all the way back to the earliest days of mankind upon this earth, we have an inbuilt instinctual need for the security of our own home space.

A child making a den is not just play acting. Whether it’s a clothes horse and a blanket, a stick den in the woods or a miniature den made for tiny wooden figures, it’s an externalising of that deep primal instinct.

As the four year old expressed with heartfelt longing the other day, ” I’m so jealous of the little people! Their world is so beautiful! I wish I could be tiny and go into that little world.” We each chose a pegdoll thst represented ourselves and entered our own mini world that afternoon. The experience was magical!

We picked flowers from the garden outside and used them to decorate our own tiny garden.

We made friends with foxes and squirrels and had our own little wooden houses.

So yes, wooden toys are important. They give a child the experience of being grounded and soothed, comforted and energised. I see the incredible tranquility and contentment of children playing freely with simple wooden toys. Totally focused ad engrossed…their imagination running wild.

As a child belongs to his family and gains his security from that sense of attachment, wood (and other natural materials such as silk and wool) offer him the same kind of attachment and security of being part of his home planet earth.

Keeping A Sense of Humour

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There are many situations in life where you have to laugh or you’d cry. (I used to work in a nursing home, which was the perfect training ground).

I find it absolutely essential to keep a sense of humour when dealing with other people, especially little ones. Maybe I haven’t quite grown up yet, but if being a responsible adult means I can never see the funny side, I’d rather be a child. And anyway, I think it helps children gain a sense of perspective when they see I don’t take life’s ups and downs too seriously.

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We all make mistakes along the way, and being able to acknowledge with a smile that you’re having a ‘dropping day’, or are a bit of a ‘forgetty-pants’ (as the four year old puts it when I’m being scatty) can help children accept their own limitations with less frustration.

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One day I was preparing supper whilst dancing to an Abba CD with the three children, who were two, four and six. As I waved a bag of frozen peas above my head, it suddenly burst open and a cascade of peas showered over me and the floor…right on the spot where the new puppy had done a poo earlier. It was actually incredibly funny (judging by the childrens’ reaction) and I had to laugh as the cold peas ran down inside my bra. Suddenly I found myself spontaneously changing the lyrics of ‘Dancing Queen’:
“Lots of peas, covering meee, running everywhere! …. Yeah, I’ve lost my peas, oh where can they be, do I even care? Oh yeeeah!”
As the song changed to ‘Mama Mia’, my lyrics became a song about sweeping:
“Dearie dear, here I go again, sweeping, all those naughty little peas!”
I hammed up my performance, revelling in the lack of self-consciousness that the company of small children can release. The kids cavorted happily around me, hooting with laughter at my pea song .
It crossed my mind as the kids joined in with their own songs while helping me scoop up peas, that not only were we acting as a team engaging in cooperative helpful behaviour, but they were learning about rhyme, rhythm, metre and performance, as well as attitudes and ways of responding to an accident. If I had become upset or angry over the waste of peas or the inconvenience of having to clean up when I was busy, I bet I wouldn’t have had any happy little helpers. And what a different message I would have conveyed: that cleaning is a tedious chore, accidents are very upsetting, and fun stops when somebody makes a mistake. Instead, the pea mishap had turned into a joyous occasion of shared laughter and performance art.

It was very liberating.

I have also found that since play is the way kids relate to the world, I can make better relationships with them if I join in.

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Children have a highly developed sense of the ridiculous and will turn anything and everything into a game. They don’t need expensive toys. Which is why I always save bubble wrap. They love it even more if I join in with the game and make bubble wrap outfits for them. Sometimes I think laughter is the fuel kids run on.

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On a deeper note, shared laughter is incredibly strengthening, healing and intoxicating for kids. It releases a flood of happy emotions and endorphins that bind you all together. Laughing together at something she says or does (coupled with lots of hugs and physical play) gives your child the powerful internal message that she is worthy, accepted, loved and strong together with you. It promotes resilience and self-confidence for the future: no matter what the world throws at them, they know they are strong and loved.

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Answering The Big Awkward Questions

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Every child, at some point, will hit you with one of those Big Awkward Questions of life that we tend to dread. You know the ones: “How did the baby get into your tummy?” “Why can’t I see God?” “Why do some people have different colour skin?” “Why did Jesus die?” “Why is poo brown?” Children really want to know everything, don’t they?
Lots of us feel a bit nervous about what to tell young children about the facts of life and such sensitive subjects, how much detail to go into and when is the right time to begin. The last thing we want to do is corrupt their innocence. I have been asked by several mums what is the right thing to do.
Of course there are very many opinions, and you must do what seems right to you. But if you want my opinion, here it is.

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