Young children have an inbuilt hunger to understand their world; they are biologically created to explore, create and seek out new experiences. They need to master their environment and grow in independence.
Too much TV and programmed entertainment can eventually squash that desire and result in a passive, dependent, dissatisfied and frustrated child, who is easily bored and relies on adult-directed activities rather than developing their own imagination.
Sometimes children just get bored with their collections of plastic toys. And no wonder – most mass-market toy manufacturers are specifically aiming to make themselves maximum profit by encouraging a ‘collect the set’ mentality rather than thinking of maximum play value for your child; after all, the more limiting the toy, or the more easily it breaks, the more toys you will have to buy! And also, to be fair, the amount of regulations attached to toy manufacture make it virtually impossible to sell anything really interesting because (unlike life) it has to be 100% SAFE! So manufacturers prefer to follow the herd, stick to what sells and make more of the same.
This makes me angry: we, and our children, are being cheated by greed and red tape! So what do we want to teach our children with the toys we give them? How can we know what is a truly worthwhile toy that will be loved, treasured and returned to again and again? And what’s the point of a Discovery Box? How is it different to any other toy?
I believe children are their own best teachers, and if we can only listen to them (their REAL needs, not the ones our materialist culture programs into them) then they will teach us what we need to know to care for them and what to provide them with. I want to counteract the bland plastic Disney princess culture that it is so easy to buy into, and instead, help enrich a child’s world and facilitate their journey of exploration through life.
Shin’ichi Suzuki taught very young children to play the violin by simply immersing them in a musical environment from before birth to encourage musical ‘language’ development and sensitivity. Once they became able to reach out and speak, they naturally wanted to learn to play music themselves. This method of learning was later adapted to other types of education. I aim to tap into this same kind of Suzuki attitude. Not to teach, but to facilitate a joy in natural learning based on the child’s reaching out, rather than our educational agenda.
I like to give children real things and also let them handle delicate or breakable items, like the miniature china tea set which this little one is learning pouring with. He absolutely loves his tea set.
He got really excited on a trip into the town centre where we discovered a whole tea shop! REAL teapots and plates!!! He had to handle them all! We came home with a new set of beautiful rainbow spoons.
He loves to come shopping with me. I never tell him, “Don’t touch!” as I so often hear mothers say to their children. For a start, that simply doesn’t work – children NEED to touch everything! And they see adults touching everything in the shop! I want him to learn to handle china gently, and how else will he learn? He proves to me every time I take him out that he CAN be trusted to be very gentle, as he goes around the shop investigating ornaments while the assistant hovers, looking jittery. 🙂 I just crouch next to him saying REALLY CALMLY, “We have to be Very Gentle with this. It’s Delicate.” And he is! We’ve never had a single breakage!